Invited to a baby shower when you have infertility? Here’s how each zodiac sign RSVPs

Few occasions carry as much emotional weight as a friend's baby shower for those navigating the winding path of infertility treatments. For many of us, the invitation to a friend's baby shower is not just a simple RSVP, but a poignant reminder of our own journeys. It is okay if you aren’t able to attend an event like this. There is no weakness in recognizing your limits and boundaries. It takes a lot of courage to prioritize our mental health, even when it means stepping away from celebrations.

It can feel like the universe is mocking us when we receive an invitation to celebrate someone else’s happiness. As someone who uses humor to cope with hard things, I chose to highlight possible responses based on zodiac characteristics. Maybe you’ll get a laugh at this or maybe it will resonate with you, or you’ll get some inspiration for how to communicate with your own social circle.

Here we go!

Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)

“My therapist says I shouldn’t go to baby showers while I’m this vulnerable”

Pisces (February 19 - March 20)

“Big social gatherings are a bit overwhelming for me right now, but I would love to find another way to celebrate you, just the two of us <3”

Aries (March 21 - April 19)

Immediate RSVP: “Can’t wait!

3am the morning of the shower: “So sorry, an emergency came up and I can’t make it!”

Taurus (April 20 - May 20)

“I didn’t get the invite in time and I already have another commitment that day.” (The Taurus will send a gift and fully expect a similarly priced gift when it’s their turn for a baby shower)

Gemini (May 21 - June 20)

“Who else is going?”

Cancer (June 21 - July 22)

Cries every time she reads the invitation. Never responds. Spends many sleepless nights spiraling over this

Leo (July 23 - August 22)

“Will you hate me if I don’t go? I’m having a mental breakdown over this”

Virgo (August 23 - September 22)

(Attends the baby shower with homemade cupcakes - spends the next 4 therapy sessions exploring patterns of putting everyone else before themselves)

Libra (September 23 - October 22)

“You are so special to me and you will be an amazing mama. I might not be emotionally up for celebrating a pregnancy, but I will let you know how I’m feeling on the day of the shower.”

Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)

“I hope you have a wonderful celebration, but I’m having a hard time and I don’t think I can attend. I’ll tell you more when I’m feeling up for a conversation”

Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)

“I cannot be around pregnant people right now. But if you decide you don’t want your baby, I’ll take it.”

Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)

“No”

Wow, 12 signs and 12 different ways to respond - perhaps some better than others.

Whether or not you see yourself in any of these responses, know that it is okay to have boundaries and listen to your own needs. Missing an event does not mean you are a bad friend, and attending an event like this does not mean you have to hide any difficult feelings that come up. Your infertility is part of your life, but does not define who you are.

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